Okay, I just listened to the song “Stop! In the Name of Love.” Did I really listen to these songs in my younger days and actually like them? I’m not putting Diana Ross down. She’s proved her talent and legacy. I am just questioning a song that would let a woman know it’s okay to be with a man who obviously doesn’t love her. She knows he’s cheating on her; and yet, she keeps begging him not to break her heart. Doesn’t he know how good she is?

The operative thought behind this whole song for me is that not once does she say, “I can see you don’t love me, so get out!” I kept waiting for this punchline. Perhaps she would have a triumphant moment. It didn’t come. She just went back to living in her comfort zone, even though she was obviously sad and unhappy with his infidelity. “Maybe if you’d just see how sweet I am, you’d ‘Stop! In the Name of Love.”

So, where am I going with this in this “spiritually speaking” blog? How often do we stay in the same consciousness about something that we are not pleased about? We know it is not for our benefit; and yet, we play a tape over and over in our head. We know it is out-picturing perfectly as our life and we do not like it, but still we keep thinking it.

Any change in our life, starts in consciousness. The scientific stats now prove that repetitive thoughts create a hardwired program in our mental thinking that actually releases chemicals into our body and affects our life. Why don’t we “Stop! In the Name of Love?” In other words, do we love ourselves enough to stop the thoughts that are not loving?

I think one of the main reasons we do not is because we have told ourselves a lie. We have told ourselves that it is hard to do so, to make the change. Dr. Joe Dispenza calls it “crossing the river of change.” I like this phrase and I know that when we go to cross that river, many things come up to let us know we aren’t going to make it. Do you know why this happens? Emma Curtis Hopkins, the 19th/20th Century spiritual teacher, author and healer says it perfectly.

“All your affairs, as you now look at them, represent your former way of thinking. They are held together by the glue of your former ideas. Now if you withdraw that glue, what can you expect, but that your affairs will all fall to pieces to let new affairs, representing your new way of thinking establish themselves.”  ~ Emma Curtis Hopkins

When we try to change our thoughts we are loosening that glue that has held them together (the wired connections) and chaos may ensue. When that happens, we get scared and it’s easier to just move back to our old way of thinking. However, if we will just let the new ideas flow and keep reaffirming them, “the new way of thinking will establish itself.”

Yes, it takes practice and yes the practice will pay off in the way of a new life being born within us and without. “So above; so below.” So, to wrap it up, I invite us not to go back to the old lover (old thought) that isn’t serving the magnificent life that is waiting to be lived. “Stop! In the Name of Love!”

Love and Aloha,

Rev. Rita Andriello-Feren, Co-Founding Director CSL Kaua`i and the Institute of Magnificence and Author of “What Do I Need to KNOW? 101 Thoughts That Changed My Life” and “This Thing Called Treatment,” both available on Amazon.