Born to Change

At times in my life, I have been known as being “all over the map.” If you haven’t heard the expression, it means that you just can’t seem to settle down with one thing in life. For me, I was always searching. Was I a singer? Was I an actress? Was I a mother, or did I want to have a career? Was I Mormon or a Catholic or nothing at all? I tried everything. The only thing I knew about myself was that I was creative. Not once did I feel that I had it all together, and I was determined to be “this” or “that.”

I just simply lived my life by my gut. Where was I led, I went. And that leading usually came from a need for something. At one time I was led by my need to please — a need that came from what I thought of as love.

It wasn’t until Patrick came into my life and I found the Science of Mind that I began to change in a positive direction and get some clarity in my life. My purpose became embracing the creative and artistic person I truly was, and to learn about this spirituality called the “One Power” or the “inner Presence.” I was opened to a new way of thinking about everything. I learned that this Power was not something I had previously worshipped as an outside Lord. It was instead the very reality of myself. I had access to this Power personally. It was me. I could rely on something larger than my finite mind. I could live a larger life. If it hadn’t been for my innate ability to change, I never would have discovered this powerful spirituality — and what I’ve come to understand is that this transformation is only the beginning of the journey I hope to share with you in my next few blogs.

The Science of Mind led me to become a minister alongside my husband. We simply grew together, not forcing each other. It was our natural road, and we both followed it individually and together. What a blessing to finally have a partner in life who was growing and changing at the same time I was. There were no limits to what we could do. That is what the Science of Mind gave us.

It also taught me that all the changes and roads I had taken in life were necessary to become who I am today. I am an artist for sure, and everything I put that energy toward is a creation of great importance to me, and I believe the world. If you look at the body of my work as a writer, you will see that I am always writing from a personal standpoint. I tell my triumphs, my losses, and the way I used this philosophy called the Science of Mind to help me through all the changes in my life.

I was born to change. I believe we are all born to change. It’s evolution and we are all evolving. When we are struggling or feeling negative in any way about our lives, it is usually because it is time to make a change and we do not do it. This is where complaining comes from. The inability to change causes us to repeat the same dialogues with ourselves and others, looping through the same circumstances. I’ve done it, and I witness it in others daily.

So, if I have a message for today, it is this: look deeply into yourself and your feelings and tune in to your joy barometer. Joy is different than happiness. Joy is the inner feeling of peace and love for yourself and others — a centered feeling in which you vibrate with passion for your life. It doesn’t need to be loud or explosive or set you into motion. It’s just a deep inner knowing that you are on your path.

After you’ve really centered in your feelings, look to the places that might need changing — not on the outside, but inner changes: perceptions, beliefs, limits that you’ve placed on yourself and others — and yes, where you need to take action.

I was born to change, and that is a very good thing.

Loving all the changes in me,

Dr. Rita Andriello-Feren