What is our responsibility to others? This is a question I often ask myself as a spiritual leader and person. My understanding of this is shifting and changing. It is becoming clearer and clearer to me.
I used to think it was to make sure everyone was okay. That was the Rita who wanted to please, the one who never felt like she was enough. She’s fading quickly. I am growing. I am expanding. I’m understanding that my true job is to know that everyone is SELF-sufficient. There is a Power within each person that I am here to awaken.
This teaching has informed me that I do not go where I am not invited. I do not poke my head into other people’s business without invitation. I don’t pray for someone who has not asked me. For example, a few years back, I did my best to help a lady who would call me all the time in the depths of despair. I would ask her if I could pray with her and one day she yelled at me, telling me that I thought something was wrong with her. She did not need my prayers. I got mad at the time, more at myself than at her. When I finally understood that by asking someone if I could pray for them I was suggesting that something was wrong, I got it. That was not my intention, but that was the way it was perceived and, like I said, I got it.
On another occasion, I tried to give assistance to someone who hadn’t asked for it. I assumed they needed my help. By offering my help, I made them feel like I was projecting a future of trouble for them. That was not what I intended, but it was perceived as such.
On other occasions, I’ve had people let me know that I’ve been ignoring them, not seeing them. Be patient with me. I am learning to find a balance between not meddling and reaching out.
But, it’s not all me. There is an answer we can both provide. Please ask me if you need something, whether it is a prayer, a listening ear, or a pot of my chicken soup. I think this works the best. In that way, we are all really clear. I won’t meddle where I have no place and you will get what you require when you require it. Of course, you are always perfect in my mind. I really believe that and I hold that consciousness for all of creation. We are Self-sufficient.
I’m so grateful for these lessons that I learn every day. I am so grateful to those who teach me through their dissatisfaction with me and those who teach me with their gratefulness.
Yesterday was an amazing day at Center for Spiritual Living Kaua’i. I was able to witness how I have assisted in being a healing presence by just being here. I was also able to witness the areas I need growth in, the areas that I need to let go of my own people pleasing ways. I love being in the school of life and I love having the opportunity to be in school in the most amazing job I’ve ever had. I am grateful.
Love and Aloha, Rev. Rita