I ask myself this morning, “What’s Your excuse, Rita?” What’s your excuse for not being totally abundant? What’s your excuse for not being totally loving? What’s your excuse for anything less than the perfect life? The only answer I can come up with is, “There is no excuse.” I don’t need to be excused or to apologize for anything. I am living life to exactly the standard that I have set for myself and if I need a higher standard, I only need to rise to a higher consciousness. I am always doing the best I can in every moment and always open to improvement. However, I am never less than perfect.
As Don Miguel Ruiz wrote, “Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to when you are sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.” Yes, we are always doing our best.
Can we give everyone else the same knowing? Can we accept everyone as doing his or her best? What if it is someone who seems to be inflicting harm on us or someone else? Are they doing their best? Well, in regards to what Dr. Ruiz is saying, I would have to say yes. Does this mean that we allow people to walk over us or hurt us? Asking this question might mean you are arguing with a truth that could help you rise above your hurts and blames of others. If someone is doing their best, it doesn’t mean we have to allow them to hurt us. The only request this Law reflects is that we allow them to be where they are without judgment or blame. We cannot help someone who doesn’t want to be helped. We can only help ourselves. Justice always prevails.
Accepting that everyone is doing their best releases us from the pressure of carrying the load of the world of conditions, and instead seeing whomever or whatever it is as the inner true self that they are. We can take care of things in the conditional world, but with justice instead of anger. Emma Curtis Hopkins a healer and mystic who proved this Truth during the 19th and 20th Century challenged us to look through conditions to the unchangeable Good that is always there. If we can do this, we are blessing everything instead of cursing everything. We will begin to see the Good in every experience. We will experience the Good in our own life and have the ability to be a light in the world.
I am thinking of all that transpired last night in the hearing concerning the January 6, 2021 insurrection. There is no evidence of Good in the experience or is there? It’s up to you to decide that. For myself, I have no excuse to do anything but see the Good in every individual. If I don’t, I am lowering myself to the consciousness of the situation and doing nothing to resolve it. I must see solution. I must see the Good. I must bless whatever has come from this experience. My eyes are wide open and so is my heart. I know that everything is temporary and my only job is to take care of my consciousness in this experience, stay awake, stay centered in the one Energy, the one Source that is always recreating from Itself according to the impress of our thought and belief. “One alone in Consciousness with the Infinite constitutes a complete majority,” wrote the mystic Ernest Holmes.
The Collective Consciousness is a connected matrix of waves of energy. We are both particle and wave. The question is which way are we waving and are we making excuses for ourselves when we look at the particles and deny that they are our own creation? The good news is that we can change it up in any given moment. Energy can neither be created or destroyed, only changed. We are each responsible for what we wave as this One Field. My invitation is to start waving in favor of Good and to be in action as that Good without excuses.
Love and Aloha,
Rev. Rita Andriello-Feren, Co-Spiritual Director CSL Kaua`i, Spiritual Coach, Author
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When I talk about universal love, a surprising number of people get very defensive, protesting that I’m advocating for being a doormat or worse. Universal love applies to oneself as well. Sometimes the most loving thing is walking away, or fighting back, or whatever looks like the next right thing to do in a particular situation. Keeping our hearts open and intending benefit to all, including our own selves, helps us see what that next right thing is.